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Galician, M.-L. (2001). Sex, love, and romance
in the mass media: Analysis
Myth #8, "Bickering and fighting a lot mean that
a man and a woman really love each other passionately," perpetuates the
belief that the emotional aspect of constant conflict is what makes a romantic
relationship exciting. Conflict is a media strategy used to drive,
and sell, a story (Galician, Ch5). However, researchers like Gottman
say that conflict must be constructive, and not an overwhelming part of
the relationship, if that relationship is to be successful. Galician
gives an example of this myth in the movie, The Mexican, where the
two main characters constantly fight with one another, only to fall in
love at the end of the movie for no apparent reason. Galician says
the song, The Light, provides a counterpoint to this myth, as it
stresses that positive communication, and not insults, are key in
a relationship. This chapter is helpful in
that it talks about the qualities that define Myth #8, and gives the reader
a starting point to find research to refute this myth. However, the
level of detail for this refutational information is minimal, so more research
is necessary. Gottman might be a good place to start.
Gottman, J. (1994). Why marriages succeed or
fail...and how
Gottman argues that conflict is not necessarily
a negative quality in relationships–it depends on how you manage your conflict,
and how much your partner and you match on your conflict styles.
Gottman identifies the volatile conflict style as one that is based on
lots of bickering and fighting, but is often associated with lots of passion
in the relationship too. This would
seem to support Myth #8 rather than refute it. However,
Gottman points out that in ALL types of relationships, including volatile
ones, the number of positive interactions has to outweigh the negative
interactions (at a 5:1 ratio). Gottman also identifies destructive
conflict behaviors that erode relationships, and suggests ways for improving
the way one deals with conflict. Gottman's
research is very helpful in that it provides concrete techniques and examples
for engaging in conflict constructively, as well as explaining and illustrating
what happens if negative conflict behaviors are used. Gottman's research
is also based on 20 years of longitudinal research, so his suggestions
are based on scientific evidence rather than conjecture or obsolete myths.
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