Staying Postive on the Sidelines

We’ve all seen the parents at local games screaming, swearing and sweating buckets at their tiny tykes on the court or field.

As adults, we are called to be positive role models for children who look to our examples for guidance. So what happens when we morph into the prowling monster on the sidelines?

Derek Wolden ’92, Stillwater, Minn., is the author of the self-help book “BasketCases." He says there are common issues across the board with coaches, parents and officials. After years as a basketball official, Wolden decided to share his expertise in hopes of improving the experience of people across the country.

He gives these tips for lowering your blood pressure and staying sane at the next game:

1. Don’t coach from the sidelines – it’s not your role. If you want to coach, volunteer your time every day at practice.
2. Praise your kids and never devalue their teammates in front of them.
3. Remember not to push too hard. A lot of kids burn out by ninth grade because they no longer enjoy the experience.
4. Be an example for your children – how you act will inevitably repeat itself in 20 years when they are cheering for their own children.

“Youth sports can be a wonderful opportunity to teach kids and parents,” says Wolden. “Unfortunately, youth sports can also bring out the worst in people.”

Want to be at your best on the sidelines? Keep some perspective and remember that youth sports aren’t about you; they’re about your kids.

For more helpful information, visit Positive Coaching Alliance.

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